christmas is the time of the year we all gather with our family, but what if your family consists of idiots and greedy assholes

This and that from along the Christmas road

I hope everyone had a nice Christmas! I had hoped to sit at the computer during the holidays, but nope, too much to do. Mainly because my family sucks, and I hate them. Or maybe hate is a too strong word, but I sure as heck am sick and tired of their shit! On my birthday, December 17th, I asked all my guests if they’d be home on the 23rd, as we’d like to stop by everyone and wish them happy holidays, as well as give them the annual marzipan that I make. They all said they’d be home that day, which was super fine. So I made tons of chocolate covered marzipan on the 22nd… and then the shit started…

The plan was to first visit my mom, as we had to go to the city, and she was closest by. Then visit my parents in law, and then my boyfriend’s aunt and uncle. But short after I had made the marzipan, my mom texted (yes, texted, she didn’t even call me), that she had made new plans with some friends, and that we could stop by late in the evening. So uhm, she wanted us to drive to the city, then back to our area, then to her, then back to the area. I thought she had lost it, and just told her off; as we’re not gonna do that. Skipping my mom, we went to my parents in law way earlier than expected, but when we called them to tell we were on our way, we got a “You better hurry, as we’re leaving in 20 mins!”. So they knew we would come, but they also made new plans, and didn’t even tell us. Imagine if we hadn’t called them first…

After our short visit, where my marzipan was just lovelessly placed on a table without even unpacking because they were in a hurry, my boyfriend was near the point of exploding. Even though we were now really, really early, his aunt and uncle surely had time for us, and we ended up spending most of the day at their house, eating cookies and drinking coffee and hot chocolate. When I told them how the day had been, his aunt was almost in shock over her own sister’s behavior. She told us how they spend Christmas alone with the kids, and only had to invite the uncle’s parents every other year. This made us decide, that we’re gonna do the same from now on. No more marzipan for those ungrateful fuckers, and we’re not gonna invite anyone, nor let us invite by anyone. And there is a reason for that decision too.

You see, we invited my stepdad pretty early in November, because my mom left him within a week, and we asked what plans he had made for the big day. As he had no plans, we just invited him. This made my mom freak out though, to the point where she spam-texted my boyfriend, telling him that we’re not concerned about the family at all, that we don’t care about her, and so on. He’s good at telling people off though, so he shut her up, and that was it for a while, or at least until marzipan day, like mentioned above. But then she invited herself over on Christmas day, which I wasn’t happy with at all, but accepted because of the lil’ one. Okay, jumping forward to yesterday. She was supposed to come visit for the lil’ one’s birthday, which is actually today, but because my boyfriend has work, we celebrated it with the family yesterday, or at least those who said they had the time. And who calls to cancel it, because she made new plans? My mom!

I was SO angry! I called her to tell her how I feel, but she played dumb (or maybe she didn’t even play it), and told me off. So yeah, I exploded and told her she could call the lil’ one herself, instead of letting me be the Boogieman. I hung up on her, as she kept rambling like an idiot, so yeah… Fun thing is though, that she had made plans to stop by today, which I told her I didn’t want, as the lil’ one had a mate coming over, and I told him they could play all day with no limits. And I really don’t want to entertain my mom alone for like 3 hours. Okay, so when my stepdad came over yesterday, it turned out my mom had made plans to come with him today again, and bring the present. She forgot to tell him though, that I didn’t want her here today. It’s so typical of her! She makes plans for others, cancels, then doesn’t cancel, and whatever the shit she wants! I told my stepdad what I told my mom, and he just sighed. He’s just as tired of her shit as I am…

To top it all off, because there was also one more issue around Christmas that made me want to choke some family members, we were also invited by my parents in law. They wanted us to come to their place, and celebrate Christmas with them and some random friend we don’t know. We said we’d think about it, but we already knew it was a no, because I don’t want to celebrate anywhere else than our own home, as it’s just too much stress. My mother in law saw our maybe as a yes though, and without our knowledge started making plans for the day. When we found out, we were like “Uhm, we never said yes, and we invited someone else over to us.” And then my mother in law looked at us all insulted, telling us how we DID accept her invitation, and yadda yadda. Ugh…

So yeah, next year, we’ll barricade ourselves inside our own 4 walls, and there will be no marzipan the day before. Some years ago, we had to cancel trading gifts, because it was the same shit with our parents. We put a lot of time and effort into gifting them, and we got 0 efforts back. It’s like they could have just wrapped up a box of pure stress for us, and told us they don’t give a shit. They’ve taken away the joy of gifting. They’ve taken away the joy of giving marzipan. They’ve taken away the joy of inviting. They’ve taken away the joy of Christmas… This was the last year with any kind of family traditions from our part. Next year, we send them time and date for our birthdays, and if they can’t make it, then SHAME. Christmas will be celebrated alone, and if anyone asks us to come, it’s an immediate NO. If anyone invites themselves on a day not already invited, it’s an immediate NO. It’s over!

And while I’m in the angry corner, let me continue with another topic; Instagram. I’ve noticed how it’s becoming more and more… useless? First off, it’s not loading stories properly anymore, especially the stories posted by Instagram themselves. Well, I don’t really care about their updates anymore, so whatever. But then there are all those fake followers and spam comments. Okay, I’m not really active there, since I’m busy with other stuff, but when I decide to post something, I really don’t want to sit around and delete random spam comments, block spam accounts (those free follower shitheads and porn accounts), and overall just having to take crap from idiots on there. I’ve now decided to turn off comments from future posts, and just not pay attention to those who follow for follow, because fuck them. But there is another follow problem I’ve noticed recently, which annoys me even more, and it’s when I want to follow someone myself. I straight up get a notice saying, that I can’t follow anyone because of restrictions due to community protection. WTF? I’ve followed 1 account during the last few months, so it’s not like I’m a fake follower or spammer… It makes my piss boil, because I rarely find anything worth following, and when I do, I fucking want to follow the shit out of the account I’ve found. Isn’t that what Instagram is for anyway? Follow the content that you like?

Of course I’ve tried looking up the problem, as it seems to affect all my accounts, but all I could find was, that I need to either use my browser on the computer (no-go), or link my account to Facebook (even bigger no-go). I fucking HATE Facebook with every nerve in my body, and the fact that Instagram is owned by that fucked up company makes me believe, that they are doing this on purpose, to get ownership over Instagram accounts. Because yeah, when you link your IG to FB, it’s FB’s rules that take over your IG account, a.k.a them being able to sell my content and personal information for their own gain. I’m not up for that. Of course my next step was to find a service similar to Instagram, but asking friends resulted in Twitter. I don’t like Twitter. Might use it again at some point, but not for personal posts. Looking around on the net, it came up with Deviant Art, Flickr, 500px and Snapchat. M’kay, I really don’t want Snapchat, and the others are more photo and art related, so not what I’m looking for.

Then I thought, why not Tumblr? I used it many years ago, but only for giggles, so it didn’t really come to my mind when I first started thinking about alternatives to Instagram. But Tumblr is basically the same. You post a photo (or whatever you want really), write a text (or not), write hashtags (lots of funny ones on there), and then you’re done. I like that it has no URL limitations, and that it’s so easy to explore new content to like and share. So I sat down with my phone, installed Tumblr, and made a new account for Colorpieces only. It has become so much easier and faster since I last used it, and it felt good to make a post there! So I’ll be posting on Instagram with comments turned off from now on, and then Tumblr. Maybe I’ll also go back to Twitter, dunno. Twitter is very noisy though, so I’ll have to think about it some more.

That’s it. Those were my holidays. Full of stress from family and Instagram, but solutions are being worked on. Now I just want to relax for the remaining few hours of the day 🙂

Oh, by the way… Next time I’m at the PC, and am not exhausted after a kid’s birthday, I’ll make some minor changes to the site. Nothing really noticeable. Next year, I might change the theme a bit though. Not that I want to change away from Chocolat, because I love that theme, but maybe change the colors and some designs. We’ll see!

2 thoughts on “This and that from along the Christmas road

  1. Oh Gott D= Was lief denn bei euch da ab? Wenn bei uns einer Unangemeldet vor der Türe steht kriegt er die Türe ins Gesicht. (Ich hoffe Du verstehst wie das gemeint ist). Ich wünschte ich könnte dir einen kleinen Teil der Last abnehmen. Meine Patentante aus Berlin ruft jedes Jahr nach Weihnachten mal kurz an. Also das Übliche, wie geht es so?, Guten Rutsch, und sowas halt. Was die Seite von Papa angeht… die Wohnen 2 Häuserreihen weiter und keiner Meldet sich von denen. Sind wir aber auch nicht drauf angewiesen.

    Ach Ihr tut mir so leid :'( Sagt ihnen einfach das die gar nicht kommen brauchen wenn sie nicht vorhaben die Sache ernst zu Nehmen und das niemand Aufmachen wird wenn sie dann vor der Türe stehen. Sonst muss klein Shiva doch mal hochkommen und denen den Marsch blasen…

    Denk dran ich hab n offenes Ohr wenn was ist. Fühl dich mal gedrückt ~

    1. Ja ich weiss auch nicht. Ist halt typisch unsere Familie, oder jedenfalls typisch für unsere Mütter… Meine Mutter macht dann auch gleich neue Pläne für alle, und wird sauer wenn es einem nicht passt *sfz*
      Finde ich gut wenn die Familie anruft, so haben wir das früher auch gemacht (und werden es wieder tun)! Der Vater von meinem Freund ist da wie die Familie deines Vaters; wohnte nicht weit weg, aber rief nimmer an und kam nie vorbei. Jetzt wohnt er weiter weg, aber ist immer noch dasselbe. So was hat man doch nicht nötig -_-

      Haha, jap, ab jetzt werden sie einfach abgewimmelt wenn sie sich nicht an die abgemachten Pläne halten. Hab ich ja auch eben mit meiner Mutti gemacht. Ich glaube sogar mein Stiefpapa hat seitdem mit ihr darüber geredet, weil so ein Benehmen hält keiner von uns aus <_< Ich werde gleich mal deine Mail beantworten, solange ich noch den PC für mich habe XD

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